Approaching homosexuality

So I haven’t been able to shake this note I received on Facebook. The note is from a sophomore at a Christian College in the pacific northwest. His major is of course Psychology.
Doug….I got some questions for you:
1. What would you say to someone, a Christian psychologist, who states that you should approach “treatment” with homosexuals by trying to make them heterosexual, trying to show them their wrong, and altering their sexual perceptions to an accurate sexual drive.
Answer: I would say that the approach to all  of our sins is not to focus on our sins, but to direct our gaze and hearts toward Christ. The second thing I would say is that if we as Christians believe that Homosexuality is not a issue of nature but nurture. I would seek uncover the hurt, pain and issues that might be the triggers for the sexual sin. (Although Jesus said to go and sin no more, He brought healing first.) Lastly I would point out that we should be teaching that those of us that struggle and stumble the most are the one that God calls to come boldly to the throne of grace, to receive His grace and mercy.

2. How is homosexuality different than other sins?
Answer: It isn’t necessarily, however it is sexual, physical and cultural. Which gives it a stronger hook than many types of sin. One other thing, we have all heard the expression that every believable lie is mixed with a little truth. Homosexuality although it is  a sin that doesn’t mean that there cannot be very authentic genuine feelings tied into the relationships. No different than adultery.

3. How do you treat/counsel someone who is homosexual (as a Christian)
Answer: The same as any other sin; love them, encourage them in their walk, Exhort them to good works, direct them in their giftedness

4. Do you, and if so, when you bring up the whole, “your lifestyle is a sin, and let’s work on changing it?”
Answer: If they are a non believer,  not until they come to a place of tasting and seeing that the Lord is good. (that is a whole question in itself.) If they are believer, I always ask why they are at the office and allow conversation to unfold naturally.  Maybe we could all need to relearn the age old lesson; people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care. Or just to be quick to listen and slow to speak…

5 thoughts on “Approaching homosexuality

  1. Hi Doug, Your responses are dead on! It makes sense that a Christian who is earning a degree as a Physiologist would receive training in homosexual issues. Understanding homosexuality is a sin and the underlying issues surrounding it are key to helping a person recover!

  2. just a few random thoughts: homosexuality is a biological, psychological, and spiritual issue.All three need to be addressed. People do not choose to be homosexual,any more than heterosexuals choose to be straight. One can choose to stop homosexual behavior but they stillmay have a homosexual orientaion. I f you think its easy to change your sexual orientation, imagine yourself going to counseling for years and years and trying to change from being a heterosexual to a homosexual.Just because you were raised in a Christian family, had a wonderful family, are born again and love Jesus doesnt mean you cant have homosexual issues.If you know someone who struggles with same sex attraction try and be the best friend you can. There going to need a few!! With counseling same sex attractions can greatly diminish, but a person may not ever get to the point of wanting to be romantically involved with the opposite sex. Some do..many dont..

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